Lamenting past decisions and focusing on current misfortune are ways we fill our time when suffering. It distracts us from how little control we have and our fear and uncertainty about the future. But it also prevents us from moving forward and experiencing the beauty around us. Our natural reaction when we feel vulnerability or pain is to shut down and protect ourselves. It’s during these times that we must resist that tendency and open up more. By doing so we learn negative feelings are merely waves that wash over and eventually recede creating space for beauty to come in.