We look forward to stepping out of our routines — vacations, holidays, visiting friends — but then lament the effect it has on our lives. Our patterns and habits become more about control than improving the quality of our lives. We convince ourselves we need to keep our lives in a state of equilibrium and try to create it by manipulating our surroundings. But life is organic and dynamic, and the harmony we seek is here one second and gone the next. Equanimity is an inner state. Learn to let go and appreciate balance, knowing it’s merely a moment between two extremes.
Too often we equate our being with doing. We allow our achievements to represent who we are in the world. We use effort to connect us; the outcome to measure us. But the most beneficial result of our actions is the effect they have on others. Who we reach, how we do it, and the impact we have on those around us will tell us everything we need to know about ourselves.
We often shy away from that which frightens us. It’s natural to want safety, security, and comfort. But in doing so we often forget the link between our fear and our passion. To pursue a cherished goal and fail can be perceived as a worse outcome than not trying at all. After all if we don’t put ourselves out there than we never know if we’re good enough. But are we really safe? Are we really living our lives? What frightens us also illuminates what matters most. Learning to recognize and lean into our deepest fears will always propel us toward our dreams.